PYHO: Sugar Coating

I'm not much of a sugar coater.  I used to be -- there was a point in my life where I kept things to myself, never let people see me mad, or sad, or upset.  I was a doormat, and got walked on.  It lead to me being in a horrible relationship that was verbally and slightly physically abusive.  It took me nearly six years to see that I was worth more, and to get the courage to go.

Ever since then, I tell it like it is.  I am not intentionally mean -- if what I am going to say might hurt or isn't easy for the person to hear, I try to be gentle, but I don't mince words.  If you're being an asshole, I'm going to tell you.  If you're being overdramatic, I'm going to tell you.  If you need to suck it up and put on your big girl panties, I'm going to tell you.

My best friend in the world has always been this way, though she lacked the sensitivity when we were younger.  Now she's gained some of my sensitivity, and I've taken on some of her bluntness.  We've evened each other out, it seems, after been friends for nearly 17 years now -- although we never did even out our bodies by giving her some of my butt and me some of her boobs, but alas.

Most of the time, the people in my life appreciate my bluntness.  Sometimes, they come to me because they know I will be honest, I will level with them, and that's what they need.  I've been thanked many a time for being honest.  I am always there.  I am nothing if not a loyal, devoted friend.  A few people in my life, no matter how gently I put things, take them wrong -- if it's not what they want to hear, they get upset.

Here's the thing.  I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, unless it's the truth.  I'm not going to lie to you to spare your feelings over things of importance.  I'm gonna let you know if you're being stupid - because you're smart and better than that.  I'm going to let you know if you are making as ass of yourself -- because you are strong and independent.  And no matter what happens, I'm going to be here for you if you fall, if you rise, or if you need to bullshit.

That is my pledge to you, my friends.  I will always be honest, I will always be straight with you, and I will always be loyal.

If you can't handle it, our friendship might not last.  PYHO